What Can I Do To Be Safe?

Find a safe place:  It is not fair that you leave your home because of what your abuser has done.  However, sometimes, it is the only way you may be safe.  Stay with a trusted friend or go to a shelter. Call our Helpline.  There are ways we can explore with you on finding a safe place.

Call the police: At any time you feel in danger, call 911.  DVAC may be able to provide you with a cell phone that is programmed to only call 911.

Consider the following:

  • File a Temporary Restraining Order (TRO) and if the abuser has a kick out order:
  • Change your locks and phone number
  • Change your work hours and routine
  • Change your route to work, children’s school etc.
  • Keep a copy of your TRO and/or protective order
  • Inform neighbors, work security of your protective order
  • Give your work, school a photo of your abuser
  • Register at VINELINK
  • Carry a charged phone pre-programmed to call 911

Get support from friends and family: Tell your supportive family, friends and co-workers what has happened.

Get medical help: Seek medical attention by contacting your doctor or going to the hospital if you have been hurt. Sometimes you may not even know you are hurt.  What seems like a small injury could be a big one.  If you are pregnant and were hit in the stomach, tell your doctor.  Domestic violence victims can be in danger of closed head injuries. This is because their abusers often hit them in their heads.  Of you experience memory loss, dizziness, problems with eyesight, throwing up, headaches, get medical care right away.

Medical records can be very important especially in court cases.  Give all the information about your injuries and who hurt you that you feel safe to give.